What are some examples of a scarring childhood experience that might explain an adult’s recurring problem of insecurity and jealousy in romantic relationships?
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In the case of a woman, if her dad never showed her enough affection like saying ‘ i am proud of you or i love you’ and constantly criticize the child and makes her feel she is not enough. The woman will grow up to demand a lot of affection from her man. The moment the man does not show her the fullest attention her insecurities will kick in because she would think that she is not enough. The feeling that she is not enough is an insecurity and she can become extremely jealous if she feels like her partner is showing someone else more attention especially if its a woman. Usually people like this over exaggerate things in their mind. What she will consider as little attention from her lover may in fact be a lot of attention to normal person. I used the word normal for lack of a better term. Same thing can happen to a guy.
maybe being compared to much to other siblings or people or even just there parents werent paying any attention to them or always breaking them down
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consistent beatings and rapings
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Your parents always criticizing you with no positive reinforcement. They are suppose to be the one to build you up not tear you down. Now you have been betrayed and think every ones going to do it. Not to mention your now insecure because you were taught that everything you have every done wasn’t good enough!
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Sibling rivalry. Bad parenting. Loneliness/abandonment (“if my significant other finds someone else better they’ll leave me”). Unstable parental situations. And because it always ruins everything, any type of abuse (especially mental/emotional).
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I believe it’s because of the parents or the environment that one grows up in. My mom was always jealous and insecure and I kind of got like that. But I have learned NOT to be like that gradually but surely! You don’t necessarily have to be that way. You can change. It’s all about trust more than anything.
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In the case of a woman, if her dad never showed her enough affection like saying ‘ i am proud of you or i love you’ and constantly criticize the child and makes her feel she is not enough. The woman will grow up to demand a lot of affection from her man. The moment the man does not show her the fullest attention her insecurities will kick in because she would think that she is not enough. The feeling that she is not enough is an insecurity and she can become extremely jealous if she feels like her partner is showing someone else more attention especially if its a woman. Usually people like this over exaggerate things in their mind. What she will consider as little attention from her lover may in fact be a lot of attention to normal person. I used the word normal for lack of a better term. Same thing can happen to a guy.
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