Can having a messed up childhood make you a better person in the long run?
What are the effects of having a bad childhood?
Did you have a bad childhood?
For those who are able to overcome the bad childhood; yes it would likely make them stronger in the long run. However, it will drastically reduce your chances of succeeding, to begin with. Sadly the majority of people will not overcome the negative effects of a bad childhood; many will still function in society, but a lot also never fully deal with and work through all the negative effects.
The effects of a bad childhood are vast, although none of the effects are insurmountable. A bad childhood will often increase the probably of substance, alcohol, and other abuse in adulthood. Also if you were abused as a child chances are much greater you will also become an abusive parent. Also it is possible you may become an overly permissive parent.
Also not having a father or mother in the home will often be deferential. As fathers typically provide more discipline and mothers typically more nurture. Although, both provide these things, if a child grows up without a father they face a much greater chance of facing abuse, gender confusion, emotional problems,, will be more likely to become violent, and will face a host of other problems often referred to collectively as missing or absent father syndrome.
Childhood sexual abuse can be very difficult to overcome. As there are many feeling of fear, anxiety, helplessness/powerlessness, responsibility, isolation, betrayal, anger, sadness, etc. All of these feeling can have a tremendous influence on a child and will infer with normal development if they are not dealt with. In spite of all of these difficulties those who experience a negative childhood still carry the responsibility for the decisions they make in dealing with that, and will ultimately decide whether they will work past it or not. Unfortunately, most get trapped in the cycle of bad choices taught to them by their parents, and do not change the cycle. Still many do overcome the difficulties and are usually better for it, so long as they do not wear that on their sleeve.
Well if you have a messed up childhood you’d have to get A LOT of help to become ‘good’. Messed up childhood in some people drives them to do better, for others well it weakens them.
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For those who are able to overcome the bad childhood; yes it would likely make them stronger in the long run. However, it will drastically reduce your chances of succeeding, to begin with. Sadly the majority of people will not overcome the negative effects of a bad childhood; many will still function in society, but a lot also never fully deal with and work through all the negative effects.
The effects of a bad childhood are vast, although none of the effects are insurmountable. A bad childhood will often increase the probably of substance, alcohol, and other abuse in adulthood. Also if you were abused as a child chances are much greater you will also become an abusive parent. Also it is possible you may become an overly permissive parent.
Also not having a father or mother in the home will often be deferential. As fathers typically provide more discipline and mothers typically more nurture. Although, both provide these things, if a child grows up without a father they face a much greater chance of facing abuse, gender confusion, emotional problems,, will be more likely to become violent, and will face a host of other problems often referred to collectively as missing or absent father syndrome.
Childhood sexual abuse can be very difficult to overcome. As there are many feeling of fear, anxiety, helplessness/powerlessness, responsibility, isolation, betrayal, anger, sadness, etc. All of these feeling can have a tremendous influence on a child and will infer with normal development if they are not dealt with. In spite of all of these difficulties those who experience a negative childhood still carry the responsibility for the decisions they make in dealing with that, and will ultimately decide whether they will work past it or not. Unfortunately, most get trapped in the cycle of bad choices taught to them by their parents, and do not change the cycle. Still many do overcome the difficulties and are usually better for it, so long as they do not wear that on their sleeve.
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yes i had a messed up childhood and i think it fucked up my life to put it plainly, Bc of my messed up childhood i had to deal with repressed anger, hate, resentment, envy, sorrow, lonelyness, i had extreme fears, and abandonment issues, i got rejected so i had a fear of rejection therefore i was always changing myself to please other people. I turned to drugs to help me cope with the pain and Self injury, i got depressed for a few years, i suffered with eating disorders, personality disorders ( borderline) Im still trying to figure out if ill be ok.
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